I told myself a couple of days ago that I need to stop reblogging so much, and write my own posts. But with most of my creative energy going into writing my memoirs these days, coming up with fresh words for my blog is not a top priority. Plus we are getting ready to sell our house to my husband’s daughter, who works at a nearby military base, and move to a house that will be more suitable for the two of us, near our friends and close to our new church. It’s an exciting time, and we are very grateful for this opportunity. But, oh — all the packing, moving, and cleaning we need to do…. Yikes!!! Please pray for us. And please also pray that my writing won’t get sidelined in the move!
Minister Aldtric Johnson M.A., author of the Be Blesstified blog, has written a post that is so good, I just had to reblog it. My favorite part, which I hope to use as an epigraph in one of my memoirs, is this:
“Our love for one another isn’t perfect. Our friendships, marriages, families and relationships are not perfect. We all say and do things to hurt those close to us. When this happens it doesn’t mean that there is no love, it just means that our love isn’t perfect.”
Yes! This is so true! There is a huge difference between wrongs in a relationship that are dangerous, abusive, evil, and absolutely 100% unacceptable, and wrongs that are just part of being human. Sometimes, when you have been abused in the past, knowing where that line is can be a challenge.
My husband and I both have PTSD, his from combat in Vietnam, mine from domestic wars in my childhood and early adulthood. Marriage between two fallible, but otherwise “normal” human beings, is hard enough. But when both parties have been placed on permanent disability due to severe and chronic Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, the challenges to the marital relationship can be severe at times.
Thanks to our faith in the Lord and to a lot of helpful therapy, my husband and I have both come a long way in our healing journey. But, we still have a ways to go. Neither of us is perfectly healed. Not yet, anyway.
And that’s where mercy and grace comes in. Love does not have to be perfect, to be good enough.
Please visit Pastor Johnson’s terrific blog. Thank you for stopping by, and Be Blesstified!
We have all had people speak badly about us behind our backs. Sometimes it was true, and sometime is wasn’t true.
If we are honest with ourselves, we have all done it ourselves at sometime or another.
Many times we will hear something said about someone we care about, someone we love or someone we respect and rush to let them know as soon as possible. But, is that always the right thing to do?
Is it always good for the wife to tell her husband what her dad said about him?
Is it always good to let one co-worker know what another co-worker said about them?
Is it always good to let one friend know what another mutual friend said about him or her?
Yes, I said ‘mutual’ friend. Some would contend to say that if they were a real friend they wouldn’t say anything negative, but that’s not…
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