WHY LOYALTY IS NOT TELLING SOMEONE EVERYTHING THAT’S SAID ABOUT THEM…

I told myself a couple of days ago that I need to stop reblogging so much, and write my own posts. But with most of my creative energy going into writing my memoirs these days, coming up with fresh words for my blog is not a top priority. Plus we are getting ready to sell our house to my husband’s daughter, who works at a nearby military base, and move to a house that will be more suitable for the two of us, near our friends and close to our new church. It’s an exciting time, and we are very grateful for this opportunity. But, oh — all the packing, moving, and cleaning we need to do…. Yikes!!! Please pray for us. And please also pray that my writing won’t get sidelined in the move!

Minister Aldtric Johnson M.A., author of the Be Blesstified blog, has written a post that is so good, I just had to reblog it. My favorite part, which I hope to use as an epigraph in one of my memoirs, is this:

“Our love for one another isn’t perfect. Our friendships, marriages, families and relationships are not perfect. We all say and do things to hurt those close to us. When this happens it doesn’t mean that there is no love, it just means that our love isn’t perfect.”

Yes! This is so true! There is a huge difference between wrongs in a relationship that are dangerous, abusive, evil, and absolutely 100% unacceptable, and wrongs that are just part of being human. Sometimes, when you have been abused in the past, knowing where that line is can be a challenge.

My husband and I both have PTSD, his from combat in Vietnam, mine from domestic wars in my childhood and early adulthood. Marriage between two fallible, but otherwise “normal” human beings, is hard enough. But when both parties have been placed on permanent disability due to severe and chronic Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, the challenges to the marital relationship can be severe at times.

Thanks to our faith in the Lord and to a lot of helpful therapy, my husband and I have both come a long way in our healing journey. But, we still have a ways to go. Neither of us is perfectly healed. Not yet, anyway.

And that’s where mercy and grace comes in. Love does not have to be perfect, to be good enough.

Please visit Pastor Johnson’s terrific blog. Thank you for stopping by, and Be Blesstified!

BE BLESSTIFIED!

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We have all had people speak badly about us behind our backs. Sometimes it was true, and sometime is wasn’t true.

If we are honest with ourselves, we have all done it ourselves at sometime or another.

Many times we will hear something said about someone we care about, someone we love or someone we respect and rush to let them know as soon as possible. But, is that always the right thing to do?

Is it always good for the wife to tell her husband what her dad said about him?

Is it always good to let one co-worker know what another co-worker said about them?

Is it always good to let one friend know what another mutual friend said about him or her?

Yes, I said ‘mutual’ friend. Some would contend to say that if they were a real friend they wouldn’t say anything negative, but that’s not…

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15 thoughts on “WHY LOYALTY IS NOT TELLING SOMEONE EVERYTHING THAT’S SAID ABOUT THEM…

  1. atimetoshare.me January 9, 2018 / 3:14 pm

    Perfection comes when we leave this world. In the meantime God is getting us ready for it. Good to hear you’re moving. That must mean your offer was accepted. Yay❤️

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  2. Cherilyn Clough January 11, 2018 / 4:04 pm

    Totally understand your need to reblog while writing a memoir. It takes lots of time and energy and if you are moving too, well please just reblog as you can and remember that you don’t have to worry about building up a following until you actually have a book to sell from what I have heard. I go weeks without blogging and then do it twice int he same week. I just blog when I get carried away and can’t shut up. LOL Best wishes to you in the new year and good luck on your move!

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      • Cherilyn Clough January 11, 2018 / 10:10 pm

        Oh I often read your blogs but I am on my phone and it is not connected to my wordpress account so I can’t comment or like.

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  3. Sleeping Tiger January 12, 2018 / 10:38 pm

    Congrats on the move Linda. Happy for you that you found a house you like.

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  4. Nyssa The Hobbit January 13, 2018 / 9:15 pm

    I’ve been neglecting my blog lately as well–and for the same reason! I’m busy writing not a memoir, but a novel. It’s hard to keep both going at once.

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      • Nyssa The Hobbit January 14, 2018 / 12:05 am

        It’s a time-travel fantasy with a theme of narcissism. 🙂 A German scientist comes to our time looking for weapon ideas, but gets entangled with a girl who tries to foil his plans.

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        • Lady Quixote/Linda Lee January 14, 2018 / 12:49 am

          That sounds fascinating! I have been intrigued by the idea of time travel ever since I was 12 years old and saw a movie on the subject. With the hot topic of narcissism in the mix, it’s bound to catch a lot of attention.

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  5. sue January 16, 2018 / 5:54 pm

    Dear Linda, i like your blog. Take care in the move, and when you can post…great;) and if not, oh well. You said something a few posts back (last year) that so resonates. Thank you so much. Sue

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  6. Heartmindhealed January 21, 2018 / 5:41 pm

    Very interested in learning more about how you and your husband both deal with PTSD and heal together. I also love the question of whether loyalty means sharing all information with someone. I struggle with this question myself.

    I’m fairly new to blogging, and I hope we can both follow each others journeys!

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